Well, kids, this year is already off and running full speed. I cannot believe it is already the second week of January. I feel like it has been so long since I posted, but the last few weeks really got away from me. I’m sure there are a ton of you who feel the same way! Like holy cow, how is it already January 11? Why are my kids are already talking about where we are going for spring break? Because, “you know mom, spring break is only three months away”! Like I could forget. Please, someone, ask the train conductor to slow this ride down. I thought I was on the B&O railroad, not the freaking bullet train. I promised myself that I would try to slow down a bit this year. I didn’t really make any New Year resolutions, per se, but I know I need to take a little more time out for myself. The last few years have been so hectic. Between work, school, being a mom, wife, sister, and friend, I have had literally no time to just sit. I’m sure you all can relate.
Let me just say that so far, 2019 has been great (eleven days in). I just started my second to the last 10-week session in my MBA program at the University of Dayton. Woo-Hoo! I can see the light at the end of the tunnel! I know my husband is happy because I have literally been chasing my multiple degrees (I’ll have three after this one is complete) for 12 of our almost 14 years of marriage. He is as ready for me to be done as I am! Listen, it’s not like I am this crazy workaholic, knowledge junky……..oh wait, yes that is exactly what I am. Believe me when I say that if I could make a career out of learning, I absolutely would. I L-O-V-E to learn. However, I know that is not a viable option for employment so I will finish my MBA with the understanding that I am done….for now. Somewhere out there, my husband is rolling his eyes harder than a fourteen-year-old teenager who just had their cell phone taken away. He knows I will always be up for a new adventure or challenge.
The reality is that I am constantly in challenge mode. I want to be challenged, challenge others, have healthy conflict and learn as much as I possibly can. Some of you may be thinking, why in the world would you want to include conflict in your daily life? Well, I will tell you why. It’s important to have conflict. I am not talking about hair pulling, name calling, get your recess taken away kind of conflict. I am talking about being challenged. Challenged at home, in the workplace, in the gym, where ever. Without that challenge or conflict, how do you learn, grow, and strengthen yourself?
In my professional life, I have dealt with all types of conflicts. Conflicts mostly resulting from the fact that I am a woman in the traditionally male-dominated field of manufacturing. I am positive that is how I started to use conflict for strength. That for every person who told me, you are too young, too pretty, too female to work in this field, I used it to my advantage. I didn’t just agree and say, “Oh you’re right, having boobs is a major disadvantage of trying to run a manufacturing business. I should just throw in the towel and call it a day”. If I would have done that 17 years ago, I would not be where I am now. I’m sure many of you, male or female can relate. Just because someone tells you that you can’t do something, doesn’t mean you should give up. Don’t take it from me. Bruno Mars says it best…….. “Don’t believe me, just watch”! If you need an anthem to motivate you, this is it! Mark Ronson – Uptown Funk ft. Bruno Mars (Official Video)
It has taken me a very long time to get to that place, and there are still days that I struggle with this. I lose my confidence, I waver in the face of adversity, I go home and cry in my closet and pray for an answer to whatever is troubling me that day. I lose sleep, I lose focus, and sometimes I lose myself. But the reality is, I know who I am. So I dry my tears, pick myself up, put on my highest Michael Kors black stilettos and waltz right back into that office, head held high and ready to take on a new day. I will continue to welcome the challenges that come my way, all the while taking time for myself. Everyone needs to practice self-love or self-care. And that is how this post started, with a promise to myself to slow down and take some much needed “me time”.
So, me time it is. I sit here writing this post with the understanding that I have a full day of work ahead of me, a late evening meeting, and a weekend full of homework. But that isn’t going to stop me from going to Cincinnati with my husband to the “Cavalcade of Customs” car show, watching Pretty Little Liars with my daughter, or taking a much-needed bubble bath with a glass of wine and my audiobook, “Girl, Wash your Face” by Rachel Hollis. I may even try to get in a workout or two. Lord knows I need it because these last few years in school and work have really derailed that part of my life.
What I am saying is, even though there is plenty of work-work, housework, homework, and many more productive things I could be doing with my time, I am going to practice some self-love this weekend. I am going to make a commitment to me to promote this self-care throughout the year. Who knows, it could be the thing I need to catapult me into the next phase of my life, not only personally, but professionally as well.
As you go through your life this year like your hair is on fire, remember that you need to take the time to douse those flames. Have a glass of wine, read or listen to a good book, cry in the closet, take a bath, cuddle your spouse, kids, dog or all of the above. Just take some time to practice the self-love that we all so desperately need.
Until next time, friends…..